Your Looking for Love In the Wrong Places

Now, I know y'all are used to me talking about health and food, but I felt obligated to share some of my other personal experiences with you. Plus I felt someone could use some encouragement. I used to have a problem with being transparent, but not anymore. Let's just say my growth game is on steroids right now! So, lately I have been doing a lot of soul searching because I've been craving something a lot deeper or shall I say meaningful in all areas of my life. I'm aware that what I'm looking for is not outside of me. It is within me. You ever felt like something was missing? Words cant even explain it. You just know that it is not there. I realized that what I was missing was very simple. I wanted a deeper love. A love from myself that is unconditional. It's easy to get unconditional love from others, but so hard for me to give it to myself. Or, am I fooling myself and not really loving unconditionally like I thought? It dawned on me that my love came with conditions. I can be honest and admit that. I have never been in love with me. Well, my perception of love is increasing so I think love is something that you embody like become. But let me not get deep might mess around and lose myself or you trying to explain something I am still learning. Anyways, I have been loving people harder than I love myself. Which means I've been putting me second. Well I'm putting an end to that.

I guess healing requires some soul searching and this is part of the process. Yet, we want from people things that we can't even give ourselves. Ain't that some shit? We all say we want love and loyalty, especially love. We want a man or woman with money. Umm do you have money? Are you financially stable? We want a man with abs, healthy, and in shape. Ummm are you in shape with abs sis or sir? Do you get what I'm saying. We want what we CAN give ourselves but we're not. Why is that.

We go from one relationship to next looking for someone to be what we need. Someone to fill that void and give us some real love. I had to realize I am what I need in this very moment. I realized that the most important relationship you can ever have is the one with yourself! So how are you treating you? How is your relationship with yourself? Because the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for your relationships with other people. So now that I know what's missing I decided to really focus on loving me more. Which requires me to be honest. If you can't be honest with yourself you can't be honest with no one. I am being more gentle and focusing on being my best self no matter how big or small the situation. I started a 21 days challenge of "Falling in Love with Shannaire " challenge and I am only on day 9. Has it been easy? Sorta. Challenging? Yes! Only because it's not always easy to break old habits. I had to overcome some things and hurt my own feelings. I had to admit some things about myself that made me a lil uncomfortable. However, it is all good. So, I'm just gon say I'm in labor 21 days and I am EXPECTING a breakthrough in all areas of my life. I can literally tell you that my mindset has been changing. Transformation comes with the renewal of your mind. My confidence has been increasing. Yes, I have struggled with self esteem. People find that hard to believe because I have a larger than life personality. You see people can tell you how beautiful, or great of a person you are, but if you don't believe that about yourself it is of no use. The most important thing I noticed about the changes in these 9 days is that my inner dialogue with myself is MUCH better. I love the motivating and inspirational conversations I have with myself. Although I ate what myself and others considered healthy, my thoughts about myself weren't as healthy as I thought. I found myself expecting the worst of situations. Like the positive words didn't match the doubt I saw in my mind. I was toxic to myself. But, oh how has that change. 21 days of self love and I have been having the best conversations with myself out loud and in my mind. I find that my joy and happiness is increasing.

I realized that if I want to inspire others that I must first inspire myself. If I want to encourage, and motivate others, I must encourage and motivate myself first. You know the saying " Be the change you want to see". I am after my own heart. Pulling back all the layers of my very being and letting the greatness of who I am shine through. I feel so alive. Like I have finally awakened from some dark slumber. So, I encourage those of you looking for love, or the "one" to realize that you are the one. You have ALWAYS been the one. You have always been the love that you needed. The love that you give yourself is far greater than anyone outside of you can give you. I have realized this for myself. Now that I have been working on my relationship with myself I feel so powerful and did I already say alive? I feel so much going on, and I mean that in a good way. I do believe that great things are in store for me beyond my wildest imaginations. I am preparing myself for this over flow. Whitney Houston gave us the game a long time ago in her song called "The Greatest Love of All", which was my favorite song to sing as a child. She said the greatest love of all is inside and easy to achieve by learning to love yourself. Did I mention how free I feel?

SELF love IS the greatest love of all ! So, whether your single or involved turn your undivided attention inwardly and love on you deeply. Love yourself and prove it to you. Don't just get your nails and hair done. Take care of all of you mind, body, and spirit. Show up for yourself. Take yourself out on a date with you. By loving yourself you will find yourself WANTING to take care of you. Wanting to get ALL your shit together. Wanting to eat right and exercise all because you love you and deserve it. Get to know you on a deeper level. You owe it to you. I believe an amazing transformation is around the corner! 2 cups of love and 1 you makes the perfect cure for self love. Start your own 21 day self love challenge and let me know how it goes!